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The Children of War: A Reflection on Freedom, Courage, and Trauma

When the 80th anniversary of D-Day was mentioned on the radio, the presenter urged listeners to remember the soldiers’ sacrifices for our freedom. His words left me wondering if he truly believed that our freedom hinged on war victories and soldiers’ deaths, or if he was merely reading from a script.

Are we really free because of wars won? Are the so-called “losing” countries not free? And what are we supposedly free from? Certainly not from the pain, loss, and emotional scars left by war.

We’re not free from corrupt leaders and corporations either. The news presenter seemed oblivious of the immense loss of life and financial gains wars bring to a select few. Is this what courage is, or are our leaders simply lying?

I do not doubt the bravery of the soldiers, both fallen and surviving. They showed unimaginable courage, believing they were doing the right thing. We honour their sacrifice for believing in a noble cause. Yet, their families suffer the lasting trauma and loss, and future generations inherit these emotional wounds.

I write about this now not only to remember the Normandy Invasion and the many sacrifices made. We honour the fallen on the eleventh hour of the eleventh day of the eleventh month each year, but it’s time for us to wake up, or we too will become amongst those remembered by future generations.

We must confront and understand our past to break free from these inherited patterns. Until we do, we live in a cycle of self-sabotage, trapped by wounds that aren’t even ours.

Recognizing and accepting these negative imprints is the first step to healing. Once we do, we open ourselves to change and begin to see the truth, recognizing when we’re being deceived.

September 11, 2001, was a turning point for me. As I woke up to the news of the second Twin Tower collapsing, I had a sense that something was off. It didn’t feel like a simple terrorist attack. That day was a wake-up call for millions.

An astrologer friend later pointed out the symbolism of the ‘twin’ towers falling, indicating a collapse of old beliefs. It took place during the Gemini months – there are your twins!

From that day on, I sought to uncover the truth behind deception. This journey made me realize it’s not about “us” anymore; it’s about serving humanity. When we seek the truth, we stop being afraid and start focusing on the bigger picture. My search for truth after 9/11 led me to read extensively about war, deceit, and humanity.

The children of war
The children of war

Books like “Goodbye To All That” by Robert Graves, “Memoirs Of An Infantry Officer” by Siegfried Sassoon, and “Birdsong” by Sebastian Faulks highlight the futility of war. The stories of lost lives and futures moved me deeply, reminding me of the old wounds from past generations.

After 9/11, the anger I felt about the Iraq war and global tyranny transformed my perspective. I longed for a world without money, war, or greed. A world where people share what they have out of love, not obligation – a One World Family, not a New World Order.

However, this vision is impossible while we carry patterns of numbness, rejection, loss, abandonment, and betrayal. Even looking back at our parents’ and grandparents’ experiences during the wars reveals these inherited patterns.

Children of current wars, especially boys without fathers, suffer greatly. They seek male role models outside the home, often leading to gang involvement where positive growth is scarce.

As humans, we strive for progress, yet it feels like we’re regressing. We’re bombarded with media, monitored constantly, and manipulated by those in power. We are less free than ever, with our own governments as the enemy. Fear is used to control us, creating the illusion of an enemy.

Continual warfare maintains this illusion, but we need to see through it. The wars in Vietnam, Iraq, and Afghanistan benefit corporations, not humanity. The pattern of abandonment affects couples and children, leading to cycles of victimhood and aggression.

Healing these wounds can free us from these destructive patterns.

Is the war in Afghanistan more about industrial-military control over the poppy fields and the heroin trade than fighting the Taliban?  It appears that heroin is more widely available than before and the price is being driven down. 

A statistic from 2019 – America Has Been At War 93% of the Time – 222 Out of 239 Years – Since 1776“, i.e. the U.S. has been at peace for less than 20 years in total since its birth. I wanted to check, get a better understanding and look at other countries in the world.

War only creates causalities and profits for Bankers. Ask retired General Smedley Butler who wrote “War Ia A Racket”. No war benefited mankind, only the people who profit from it.

Authenticity is key. We wear masks to cover our pain, but as we heal, we can see through others’ masks and understand their struggles. This helps us understand that being different is not dangerous; it’s essential for change and evolution.

Freedom doesn’t come from wars. It comes from healing our wounds and being our authentic selves. It takes courage to overcome deep wounds, but knowing these patterns aren’t truly ours makes the journey easier.

In 1997, researchers from Kaiser Permanente discovered that adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) have significant health impacts. Those with many ACEs had shorter lifespans and higher risks of chronic diseases. Trauma specialists found that trauma changes the brain’s shape, hinting at deeper, energetic processes at play.

Understanding and healing from these traumas can transform our lives and break the cycle for future generations. It’s never too late to heal, and as we do, we lift the same wounds from our children.

Our freedom lies in releasing these wounds and living authentically. This transformation requires soul-searching and courage, but it’s a path to true liberation, breaking free from the patterns that keep us bound.

Phylipa Dinnen

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