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During the first seven years of our lives, we develop our blueprint. Or rather, it’s developed for us.

Before we become adults, we go through the gradual transition from childhood.

Today, we are adults, but that inner child hasn’t vanished. The little girl or boy we once were is still within us. When we feel fear or shame, it’s often our inner child responding to those emotions.

I was captivated listening to cell biologist Dr. Bruce Lipton’s conversation with Brian Hubbard from “What Doctors Don’t Tell You.” Despite mainstream medicine’s skepticism, Dr. Lipton’s views have always resonated with me.

In one part of the interview, he touched on something intriguing (I’m paraphrasing here):

Aristotle once wrote, “Give me a child until it is seven and I will show you the man.”

For 400 years, the Jesuits have echoed this idea, understanding that the first seven years are when children are subconsciously programmed.

For all of us, 95% of our lives are driven by this early programming. So, we’re not truly living our lives; we’re acting out a script given to us.

We’re all in the same boat. We don’t realise we’re following these programmes because we believe we’re thinking independently.

After all, our mind influences every part of our life. It’s our most precious asset.

When things go wrong, we’re quick to blame others. We often fail to see that we’re just playing out our own programme. By responding to this programming, we create our behaviour and adopt beliefs that were downloaded into us early on.

This means our life can get off track because we’re following rules we acquired from others.

What Happens When We Fall in Love?

When we fall in love, everything changes – BIG TIME. Even science acknowledges that falling in love disrupts our programmed responses.

We stay present, eager to experience the novelty love brings. During this time, our programmed thinking pauses and we start living from our conscious mind. 

We become creators instead of responders.

If most relationships begin as a taste of Heaven on Earth, why do they often fail?

Eventually, when the raw excitement of new-found love fades, we start thinking again. The behaviours and attitudes we picked up from our parents and community, which might not be suitable for our new life, re-emerge.

When this happens, our partner might witness behaviours they’ve never seen before and think, “Who are you? Where did that come from?”

These behaviours were not in the relationship until we reverted to our programmed thinking.

As these negative patterns resurface more frequently from both partners, this is the starting point at which many relationships become strained. 

About 50% of relationships end in breakup or divorce because the person we fell in love with starts displaying behaviours from their programming that were hidden at first. 

Suddenly, it feels like we’re with someone else—their programmed self.

And that’s not what we signed up for.

Graeme Dinnen

“We can control our lives by controling our perceptions. Your perspective is always limited by how much you know. Expand your knowledge and you will transform your mind.” Bruce Lipton

Dr. Bruce Lipton’s book “The Biology of Belief“.will forever change how you think about your own thinking.

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